one page point form: understanding how a person falls into breaking the law
of chastity, how to find solutions and finding a new focus
LIVING THE LAW OF CHASTITY: AND BEYOND
Stephen ZoBell, PhD
2009
In our day and age people who lie are
not put to death but something inside them dies.
From:
G.B. Hinckley in Standing for Something, p. 13
D&C 18:10 The worth of souls
is great in the sight of God
UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM SOLVE THE PROBLEM NEW FOCUS
Dishonesty, deception, denial
Avoidance of Bishop/Atonement Dissociation: two worlds Distorted sense of identity Distorted sense of values Harmful self talk Harmful fantasies Powerful yet harmful passion Avoidance of discomfort Anger, fear, depression Psychological addiction Chemical addiction Trapped Too analytical: why? why? Bitter, negative, pessimistic Loss of confidence Excessive media exposure Multiple addictions Fragmented Out of control—not accountable Blame |
Courageous honesty
Honest with Bishop**
Submit to the Atonement**
Focus: what is right what/how Hope Substitution and replacement Avoid outside erotic stimulation Quit seeking erotic stimulation No feeling sorry for self No entitlements for negative Diminish/control media ARP Professional counseling Heal and grieve past losses Predict/avoid relapse potential Regular exercise Practice, practice, practice Never give up True sense of identity/values Positive self talk From self to others to God Learn responsibility |
New horizons: be
specific
Create positive dreams/goals Wholesome adventure/projects Build, create, help, fix Interact with the concrete world Contribute to making surroundings a better place Connect to the church Connect to the Savior Connect to self Connect to family and friends Read, study wholesome material Regular exercise program + impact on concrete world Be specific about positive future goals
Treat body as a temple
Turn righteous dreams into reality
Make a positive difference Righteous visions Righteous giving and service Responsible for self Accountable to self, God, others Confidence in God |
Qualities of a helper:
Instill hope, promote
honesty
Compassion/worth of a
soul
Safety for all
Firm with boundaries,
gentle with the human soul
Detached but
supportive caring
Avoid condemnation
Promote solutions,
encourage
Refer to the mantle
of Bishop and the Atonement
NEVER GIVE UP ON A
HUMAN SOUL
